Author Archives: sidneyia

aversive asexual erasure: maybe it’s just me?

I’ve been extremely indecisive over writing this post because I feel like maybe I’m just paranoid or imagining all this. It seems like, whenever I see a definition or a discussion of asexuality, there is a lot of effort to … Continue reading

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(a)sexual exploration

I didn’t get crushes on boys when my friends did. I didn’t understand the appeal of playing spin-the-bottle at lunchtime. Boys were still yucky. I didn’t understand, either, why my friends read Seventeen, because we were twelve. Desperate to fit in, … Continue reading

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unpopular opinion time: asexuality and sex positivity

This piece was first posted to sidneynia.tumblr.com on October 28, 2011, as part of the first Asexual Awareness  I think it might be time for the asexual movement to tone down the sex positive stuff. Don’t get me wrong: I … Continue reading

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Why I’m okay with “born this way”

There has been some pushback lately against the concept of “born this way” as a rallying cry for queer people. I’d like to go on the record as a queer person who finds the idea of “born this way” very … Continue reading

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the radical asexual

I think I might be a radical asexual. I’ve never self-identified as a radical anything, with the exception of possibly radically prochoice – but even then, I feel like “radical” is acknowledging one’s beliefs fall far outside the norm, and … Continue reading

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prude-shaming

If rape culture and the systemic oppression of women’s sexual agency can be traced in large part back to the virgin-whore dichotomy, then all the focus on slut-shaming is only dealing with the “whore” part. The purpose of this post … Continue reading

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